The Best Groom Tips from The Little Link Wedding Blog
So you've bought the ring and popped the question. Now it's time for the planning to begin. Traditionally the bride takes it from here and does most of the planning from the honeymoon, hiring the band, preparing the guest list and so on.
However, as many of you are already finding out, times have changed. The groom should be every bit as involved as the bride in terms of planning the perfect wedding.
Here are our top 10 tips to consider and keep in mind to make your pre-wedding life a bit easier and happier. We are pretty sure that it will keep any groom out of the doghouse and more importantly keep your fiancé happy.
1. Have an Opinion
This is your wedding too, so get in on the planning. Pick a few things that interest you (maybe food choices, or perhaps your favourite music). You don't have to get into the nitty gritty details on the difference between lilies and daisies for the bridesmaid bouquets, but give your opinion on the major planning points; it'll let your fiancé know she's not in this alone. And wouldn't it be nice to know a little something about your wedding before you attend it?
2. A Helpful Groom is a Happy Groom
You should be happy and more importantly, offer your help in the planning of your wedding. More times then none your wife to be will say; "Thank you honey, but I have it all under control" but knowing you offered and knew what to do will set you far above the bar that is set by those men who never think to ask or don't want to help.
Go one step further by making a list of family, friends and co-workers you would like to invite. Stay organized by starting a spreadsheet with names and addresses of guests. (Facebook, email & phone numbers do not count.) You can also help by working out a wedding budget with your fiancé, and offer to call vendors to set up appointments. Taking this positive role in planning the wedding will most likely help your fiancé handle the stress that comes with planning such a big event.
3. Know the "No-nos"
You need to know that you’re not inviting your ex girlfriend to the wedding, and it is not appropriate to even ask.
And NO, referring to your wife as the future as the Cell Mate, Prison Warden, Captor or anything that refers to her as someone who is ruining your life stopping your life or killing you is not funny.
4. Be A Buffer
If your mom is calling your fiancé every hour to talk about the wedding, you run the risk of major family conflict, with you stuck in the middle.
You need to remember that your mother is not in charge of planning the wedding.
Your mission: Keep the peace.
Call your mom and let her know that while you appreciate her interest and excitement, it's your wedding and she needs to give you two some planning space. Take responsibility for communicating with your family so that you can filter out petty worries from legitimate concerns.
5. Don't Add Insult
Your fiancé may complain about her mom who's being a control freak, or about her uncle who doesn't want to attend the wedding, or her sister who wants to bring all four of her kids. Don't join in on the family bashing. Hear her out, agree with her, but don't take this opportunity to tell her the things about her family that annoys you. Her bad mood will pass, but your careless comments will stay.
6. Remember Romantic Gestures
We know that this may be one of the last things you want to do, especially in the midst of the crazy wedding planning. Don't forget the little things like sending her a rose to her office, or bringing her lunch when she gets too busy and show your appreciation that she is doing everything to make this the best wedding ever!
7. Don't Be A Pushover
She wants those pink headbands for your groomsmen, but you have your men violently objecting. See if you can meet her halfway: Tell her the pink headbands are a bit much, but you're fine a pink corsage or a lapel pin. You'll make her happy and salvage your manhood.
8. Manage Your Men
Know your friend who loses his car keys at least once a week? Not a good idea to make him responsible for bringing your ring to the ceremony. And your buddy who tends to drink too much? Make sure one of your more reliable groomsmen wakes him up in time for the big day. Your guys don't have to be saints, but they will have responsibilities, and it's your job to make sure they know what they are.
9. Be Realistic
You should know now that sex on the wedding night is most likely not going to happen. Plan for a late checkout and enjoy a nice late breakfast in bed with each other's company. Avoid AM flights, avoid making early plans to meet anyone, it's your time to relax after the hassle you've just been through.
10. Create Your Honeymoon Wishlist Together
In order to pick a honeymoon that is important to both of you, create a list that helps you understand what you both want out of this adventure and trip of a lifetime. Do you want ocean front villas, does TV matter, do you want a butler, your own private plunge pool, do you want nightlife, tours, sightseeing, watersports, golf and anything else you need to know to pick where you want to visit! The more you know about you both want, the better you will be at choosing a location that will make you both happy.
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Source: Adapted from
honeymoons.com, bonobos.com and theknot.com